tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post4582649522987993305..comments2024-03-24T12:29:05.492-07:00Comments on Older but better...?: holding on to the thread...Rianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-30640569850633677832016-07-28T13:52:27.406-07:002016-07-28T13:52:27.406-07:00Do come back, Luna. And sometimes there's no o...Do come back, Luna. And sometimes there's no one answer... just things that work or don't work for each of us.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-5986119858976764212016-07-28T09:50:21.901-07:002016-07-28T09:50:21.901-07:00Love the kitty in the window photo!!!
Each one ha...Love the kitty in the window photo!!!<br /><br />Each one has their own story. So true. And also so true, that we can never really know the whole story, of any family member. (or of anyone, actually) My tendency, which is not, not, not good, is to impose my own interpretation on the lives of others. Unwise. Stupid even. Silly. Gets me into trouble. Etc.<br /><br />I wrote more here, and wiped the slate clean. It was not answering your question. The heat and being tired (nap time!) are not making me a good "commenter".<br /><br />I owe it to you and to myself, to do better, when dropping into a blog. :-)<br /><br />And I will! Come back again. And be a wise "commenter". Beside a babbling brook...https://www.blogger.com/profile/14230422491225783790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-62561044856809977872016-07-27T08:31:52.553-07:002016-07-27T08:31:52.553-07:00True. I too think it's a choice... not necessa...True. I too think it's a choice... not necessarily an easy one, but still a choice.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-88015806993631133762016-07-27T08:30:30.725-07:002016-07-27T08:30:30.725-07:00No, and unless there's a problem, we probably ...No, and unless there's a problem, we probably don't have to know.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-56445522919919925672016-07-27T01:37:31.910-07:002016-07-27T01:37:31.910-07:00I think it is a choice...if we allow it to, love C...I think it is a choice...if we allow it to, love CAN bring us through :)<br /><br />I wish you a wonderful Wednesday! Optimistic Existentialisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11507986337866049924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-32465461801456240212016-07-25T12:29:50.666-07:002016-07-25T12:29:50.666-07:00I'm not sure we ever have all the information....I'm not sure we ever have all the information. If we could step inside that person's mind and soul, only then would we understand where they're coming from... and how much they may be hurting... and why. And hurts need to be healed, not left to fester.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-3201222312791398132016-07-25T12:24:19.964-07:002016-07-25T12:24:19.964-07:00Olga, I haven't read many of Anne Tyler's ...Olga, I haven't read many of Anne Tyler's books, but I can see that relationships are definitely her forte'.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-39771649532066607862016-07-25T12:18:04.855-07:002016-07-25T12:18:04.855-07:00As I said, it's an interesting book... that ma...As I said, it's an interesting book... that makes you *feel* all the different conflicting emotions that go into the making of families and extended families. I can't even honestly say that I'm enjoying it, but it certainly makes me think.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-40208238978017384632016-07-25T12:12:23.222-07:002016-07-25T12:12:23.222-07:00Eileen, I really don't presume to say that lov...Eileen, I really don't presume to say that love is all that is needed, but keeping that thread of love alive gives me hope that hurts might still be mended one day. My sister and brother both died in their 50's and I so would have liked to have grown old with them.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-91738190372757605692016-07-25T10:50:54.262-07:002016-07-25T10:50:54.262-07:00I think you really nailed it with "other'...I think you really nailed it with "other's whole story". Even those we have spent a life time with-- do we really know what they are holding back for one reason or another. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-80688079464646460402016-07-25T09:35:54.640-07:002016-07-25T09:35:54.640-07:00I think that with everyone, family or not, it'...I think that with everyone, family or not, it's always important to remember that even if we think we have all the information, we probably don't. Because of this any judgement should be tentative and reversible if new facts emerge. No holding grudges over old happenings because they are in the past and situations change and often so do the people involved. We just need to stay open to opportunities that might present themselves. vichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18428581552807859803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-80472678790363697922016-07-25T06:22:40.724-07:002016-07-25T06:22:40.724-07:00Relationships in a family are what Anne Tyler does...Relationships in a family are what Anne Tyler does. <br />Even the person most close to me has a story that is different from my own, having parts to it that I cannot comprehend. But I can still love and respect that person. I can respect and even love our differences. <br />There have been people in my life who have been both troubled and troubling, causing pain because they are in pain. If I can help, I do. Usually I cannot help and then I need to protect my boundaries and move on with my own life. <br />There should be a Mr. Yuk sticker for toxic people. They have a purpose, but I certainly don't want them on my kitchen table.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-59675800587773202662016-07-25T05:40:51.534-07:002016-07-25T05:40:51.534-07:00I read that book but remember little about it. I e...I read that book but remember little about it. I enjoyed it, that much I remember. My family is scattered all around the nation, but we have a thread that joins us and have, throughout the years, remained close. :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-31329261087918813722016-07-24T20:14:02.250-07:002016-07-24T20:14:02.250-07:00That's an interesting perspective and I wish t...That's an interesting perspective and I wish that love was all that was needed. My family is not together, there are too many past hurts. My sister and I haven't spoken since my father's funeral in 2008. Even then it wasn't comfortable due to the things that were said to and about me over the years. <br /><br />Ultimately my family are not only those who are related to me but my chosen family of friends. Sakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11508656442667275102noreply@blogger.com