tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post7448860077393529907..comments2024-03-24T12:29:05.492-07:00Comments on Older but better...?: an insignificant, but interesting retirement question...Rianhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-27333394719486064752018-04-06T17:24:29.602-07:002018-04-06T17:24:29.602-07:00It certainly sounds like he would make a good husb...It certainly sounds like he would make a good husband someday. And to be honest, my kids help out a lot more now that they are grown and have their own house-holds than they did when growing up.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-50601149461484891032018-04-04T18:31:11.621-07:002018-04-04T18:31:11.621-07:00I've never been married and most of my efforts...I've never been married and most of my efforts to get help from my kids were unsuccessful. However they are both responsible for washing their own clothing, keeping their bathrooms clean, and ensure that dishes are brought out to the kitchen. My son is tidier than my daughter and always has been. He does help out other ways as well, he feeds the cats, does clean their litter occasionally (not as often as I do), cleans the gutters and checks for ice dams. He also will make a pot of coffee and bring me a cup. Perhaps he'll make someone a good husband someday. :p<br /><br />Sakuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11508656442667275102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-19283730714521191412018-04-04T14:36:18.612-07:002018-04-04T14:36:18.612-07:00It really isn't intentional, Patti. It just ha...It really isn't intentional, Patti. It just happens that way.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-24238851066953136232018-04-04T13:06:42.567-07:002018-04-04T13:06:42.567-07:00I like how you two have divided up the chores with...I like how you two have divided up the chores with little emphasis on gender specific. Well done. Arkansas Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14156004753267665579noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-35346044521129314962018-04-04T12:14:18.018-07:002018-04-04T12:14:18.018-07:00I know what you mean, Dee... about the cats not co...I know what you mean, Dee... about the cats not cooperating. When I'm working, sometimes I look at them lying there watching me... and say, "you could help, you know". They just close their eyes and go back to napping.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-16154596113369946472018-04-04T11:06:46.593-07:002018-04-04T11:06:46.593-07:00Dear Rian, first let me thank you for your kind wo...Dear Rian, first let me thank you for your kind words about "Prayer Wasn't Enough," the convent memoir that you are going to read. I so hope it speaks to you in some way. When I was writing it, I felt such great tenderness toward the Dee Ready I was meeting again--she's in her twenties and trying so hard to be perfect so as to be loved. I cried for her.<br /><br />As to your posting about chores, I've never been married or even lived with anyone for more than a few months, and so the chores here get done by me. (The cats refuse to cooperate! They spit on chores! And then hiss!) The one chore that I have a hard time doing as often as I should is the watering of all the houseplants. Somehow that just falls through the cracks. But today I saw one of the plants drooping and so I know that I must get this done! Peace. Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-58062230183823398292018-04-04T10:02:41.479-07:002018-04-04T10:02:41.479-07:00That's all that matter, Briony.That's all that matter, Briony.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-13898648820815490722018-04-04T10:01:09.166-07:002018-04-04T10:01:09.166-07:00This made me laugh. If he is still working... even...This made me laugh. If he is still working... even 2 days a week... then he is probably not in 'retirement' mode. And besides, 'whatever works' is our motto. From reading your blog, you seem to be very happy with your life, so I'd just go with the flow... as they say. Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-66170727071065452472018-04-04T07:05:03.861-07:002018-04-04T07:05:03.861-07:00It is interesting, isn't it DJan? I have anoth...It is interesting, isn't it DJan? I have another question I've wanted to post, but feel it may be too personal to ask on a blog. It's how much money people spend on food every week or every month...? I remember how little we spent on food years ago and now I think it's about 5 times that. Maybe this is due to the cost of living or at least partly so?Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-56179522323607980222018-04-04T06:58:57.596-07:002018-04-04T06:58:57.596-07:00I can imagine how fun it would be to be married to...I can imagine how fun it would be to be married to a great chef. I'll bet you had some wonderful meals.Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-12376792923768608232018-04-04T06:57:00.997-07:002018-04-04T06:57:00.997-07:00I like sharing more of the chores since retirement...I like sharing more of the chores since retirement... and since DH retired before me, he started at it earlier. So far I find that I can still do everything I used to do... but not in one day as when younger. I have to space things out. Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-84663333269499038282018-04-04T06:53:50.671-07:002018-04-04T06:53:50.671-07:00We're pretty easy when it comes to most things...We're pretty easy when it comes to most things... and I carry a cup of coffee or tea into my bed whenever I'm reading there. Since the cats are there with me, it does get a little spilled on occasion (especially if Ghost pokes her nose into it) - but no biggie. Rianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09472421271620543536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-56383581988835881882018-04-04T06:47:58.306-07:002018-04-04T06:47:58.306-07:00Well, I am sitting here with my mouth hanging open...Well, I am sitting here with my mouth hanging open wondering how I can get my husband to read your post. I do it all! I'm up first, always! Take the dogs out, feed the cats, put the coffee on, sit the cups, a spoon, and a napkin on the bar, and while I am brushing my teeth and washing my face, he gets up and fixes his own cup of coffee. I do all the grocery shopping, cooking, washing, folding, putting away, making the bed, mopping, vacuuming, window washing...could I have started this marriage off all wrong! He does work two six hour days a week.Henny Pennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05958386938311591314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-85750578834992918652018-04-04T05:34:13.231-07:002018-04-04T05:34:13.231-07:00This is so interesting! I thought we were alone in...This is so interesting! I thought we were alone in doing our own laundry, but it turns out this seems to be quite common in retired couples. Hubby does all the grocery shopping and food preparation. He doesn't think I'm particular enough about it all. :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-81879452950329445692018-04-04T03:44:02.246-07:002018-04-04T03:44:02.246-07:00As we are almost joined at the hip, lol we share m...As we are almost joined at the hip, lol we share most things, it works well.<br />Briony<br />xcrafty cat cornerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06251582085392890533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-45243361851039728912018-04-03T19:49:12.907-07:002018-04-03T19:49:12.907-07:00My husband and I always did our own laundry, he di...My husband and I always did our own laundry, he did most of the cooking as he was a great chef, and I bought the groceries. The idea of bringing a spouse tea or coffee is sweet.Terra https://www.blogger.com/profile/04396481049075747940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-41862320186475087412018-04-03T17:10:17.049-07:002018-04-03T17:10:17.049-07:00We do our own clothes, dh doesn't drink coffee...We do our own clothes, dh doesn't drink coffee so I make my own and have it at my desk. Sometimes in winter I make him a cup of tea or if he is sick or I am we help each other out; I do all the cooking and grocery shopping and meal planning so dh does the dishes. Most of our marriage I did all outdoor and indoor chores and home improvement chores to boot while working full time; so lately I have become disenchanted with housework and dh does most or it doesn't get done. Guess I worked myself for too many years and it all caught up with me. Love the watercolor teacupLinda Starrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04364078667554676592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6076673433792968099.post-15977498498553051542018-04-03T16:20:01.345-07:002018-04-03T16:20:01.345-07:00My husband always did his own laundry because he g...My husband always did his own laundry because he got used to doing the folding a certain way while in the Navy. The coffee was always a joke between us because I would always tell him about how my friend's husband brought her a cup of coffee every morning when he woke her up to get ready for work. My friend's left for work together, I left for work hours before Mike had to leave and actually I wouldn't want coffee in my bedroom because I would surely spill it.Olgahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00692441479616299920noreply@blogger.com