We all have 'friends'... to different degrees. There's the one or ones we grew up (stayed close or just kept in contact) the ones we met along the way (some clicked, some didn't), work associates (again one or two who may have stayed in contact), and then the neighbors that have come and gone throughout our lives.
I have only 3 real life friends, one I grew up with in New Orleans who has always been my bff... I know her family, she knows mine, we stood in each other's weddings, etc. She will always be very dear to me. But we don't see each other a lot. We do meet for birthdays and do go out to eat on occasion and text back and forth. I love her and always will. She lost her oldest daughter recently to Cancer. I can't imagine her pain... but we talk about it.
Then there's my good friend that I met in my 20's here in Texas. Our husbands worked together and our kids were the same ages. We have been friends for over 50 years, took many a road trip together, and spent time in England, Ireland, and France together. Before the pandemic, we met once a week for coffee and talk. Now we have virtual teas and call each other to share what is going on... good and bad. She lost her husband this past year and is dealing with her BC returning and with surgery scheduled next week. I can only be there for her when she needs me. But she can't leave this earth. I need her.
The other one is a room-mate from my college days who lives alone in New Orleans and has a daughter with mental health issues. We are on the opposite side of the political issues, but have the same basic values and beliefs (which is hard to understand, but we agree to disagree there ). She and I Skype and text...
And now in this technological age, we have online friends and blog friends. This is a fairly new area and one that has become increasingly interesting... and useful.
I think having online or blog friends is new territory that is becoming more and more popular... especially with the pandemic and people who live alone. It also creates an environment which allows one to share things in writing that might be hard to share in words face to face. But of course, like everything else, one must proceed with caution. Sharing too much personal info is dangerous in today's world.
I have several online/blog friends that I do consider dear. Out of all that may follow me or those I may follow, there are only a few (probably 4-6) that I love to hear from and am interested in what is going on in your lives. I look for your posts and comments and am worried if I don't hear from you. How about you? Do you feel this way? We may never meet, but I do think of you as real friends and would certainly miss you if you stopped blogging. Sharing my life and your lives has become an integral part of my daily or weekly routine.
I think it's important to have someone to talk to... whether it be about everyday life, health, or big important world issues. Growing up in the South, I was taught not to talk about religion, politics, or finances... and of course in my day, no one talked about sex. Those were the unwritten rules. Today I don't think there are any rules - except those concerning racial issues whereas anything and everything pertaining to any or all races seems to offend someone.
Not sure what the point of this post is... but I think it was to say that everyone is different and whether you have 3000 followers or 3 friends doesn't matter... if it works for you, then it's all good. (to be honest, I don't know 3000 people, probably don't know more than 30 - we're not terribly social) But I consider myself lucky because besides my 3 real life friends and my blogger friends, I still have DH, my 3 kids, grandkids, and my cousins to keep me in line!
Something I didn't mention and probably should have are the friends we've lost along the way. With our advancing age, this isn't unexpected, but still hurts deeply and becomes something we must learn to accept - (if this is possible). As time goes by, the losses will only increase. Hopefully our ability to deal with them will get better with time...?
Closing this now. Didn't mean to run on so. It's Friday so I hope you all have a wonderful cool weekend to enjoy. Fall is finally here! (I even bought some lettuce starts to plant in my veg trug)