My 5th and hopefully last eye surgery was January 16th. It was to put a stent into my blocked tear duct. DH and I were to be at the Surgical Center for 7:30 am.
This surgical center is very nice. The nurses there are so kind and efficient. Not to say that I wasn't terrified... but any surgery to my eye scares me (if I'm totally honest, any surgery scares me).
The first thing they do is take your weight, assign you to a bed, and take a whole 3-clip binder of information (since this is my 4th visit there, the binder is getting pretty thick). Then they give you a gown, socks, and hairnet to put on, go over the info in the binder again, take your temp and blood pressure, attach an IV to the back of your hand, and bring you a warm blanket. Then they go get your hubby to sit with you while you wait for the doctor and anesthesiologist to come by.
I told the anesthesiologist that last time I was in the surgery room when they were prepping me for surgery, I was fine until they tied my hands down. I didn't like that, but realize that it may be necessary when working on my eye. So I asked could they put me out before they did that. He said this surgery would be a little different. It would take longer and so they would be using a general anesthesia - so no need to tie my hands down. I would be out.... and I was.
Turns out the surgery was a little more complicated than planned. Apparently my left tear duct was completely blocked an the doctor couldn't get the stent through. So they had to do a by-pass? Not exactly sure how that is done, but I do have stitches between my eye and my nose. Told not to blow my nose for a week... some bleeding would be normal, etc.
The worse part of all of it was that I was so terribly dizzy due to the anesthesia after the surgery. I couldn't stand up without help for most of the day. Eventually that wore off... but next 2 nights would wake up headachy and feeling strange. I'm told anesthesia on older folks can have some lasting effects (guess I now fall into that category).
Saw my Eye Doctor for my post-op this past Wednesday. Said all is looking good. My eye pours tears out the outer corner a lot... but he said that should gradually lessen. The stent stays in for 4-8 weeks and then is supposedly taken out in his office (?). I'm still using antibiotic drops and ointment. The watering constantly bothers me and it occasionally aches a bit. But it's tolerable.
And that's it! I have an appointment for a month from now... unless I have a concern before that (which I more than likely will have). Please pray that this is the end of my eye problems...
Total Change of Subject:
I have thought for a while about doing a post on my ancestral family, but have hesitated - believing that since I'm not big on autobiographies, or memoirs, no one would be interested.
But just re-reading that last sentence made me realize the stupidity of that thought. Lots of people like to read autobiographies, biographies, and memoirs. Just because I prefer fiction - cozy, historical, or science fiction - doesn't mean everyone does. I know that. Yet, we tend to think everyone thinks as we do. Believe me, they don't! If we haven't learned that in the last few years (through the pandemic and through politics), then we are beyond help.
So, I'm starting this family history now, just generalized info that I happen to know. Perhaps I will need it one day for my own recollection... (like the pandemic chronicles I wrote from 2020 to 2022). And besides, the kids or grandkids could possibly like to read it one day. So I will share it with you - a little here and there - just for entertainment purposes.
Anyway, where to start. I don't really know a lot about past family... only what has been told to me.
My Paternal Side:
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My dad was the oldest of four children (3 born in London and one born in the States). My dad's brother wrote down what his dad (my paternal grandfather) remembered of his life. He said that he was born in England, married there, joined the British Calvary, fought in the Boer's war, took his discharge in Cape Town, South Africa, worked on a ranch for a while, did some gold prospecting, returned to England. was a lighterman, a barge captain, a steamboat captain, and later ran a gunboat on the Persian gulf (this I can verify as I have a postcard he sent to my dad when he was 7 that proves this).
He took his English wife and then 3 kids to the States 3 times after the war (between 1918 and 1920). Last time (1920) they ended up in Jacksonville, Florida - and another son was later born there. Granddad (and Grandma) became naturalized citizens and never returned to England. The family moved to New Orleans when my dad was 17 and had found a good job at Architectural Stone co.(where he eventually became the general manager).
I can verify the ships crossings as there are documents available on Ellis Isle with ships and passenger names, etc. And there is some documentation with the British Calvary. I'm not into genealogy sites, but probably could find more info if I looked (which I may do eventually). But in general, I would have loved to have known my paternal grandfather. He sounds like a very 'interesting' character.
I know nothing about my paternal grandmother other than she died before I was born, was from England, had a quiet disposition, and had/has family there... parents and siblings. I often wonder if her English family wasn't happy with her marrying my Irish grandfather (yes, he was born in England, but his grandfather was from Cork, Ireland.). And I wonder this because they never went back to visit family... and no family ever came to the States to visit them (no letters or correspondence that I know of either).
There are 'stories' of why my grandfather left England. Don't know if any of them are true. One is that he simply didn't like the climate, one is because of the difficulties in England after the war, and one was that he had built a ship, sold it, wasn't paid, and stole it back... (I kind of like that one - sounds like him)
I'm going to stop this here as it's as much as I can recall at the moment. I do know that my mom used to say that my paternal grandmother used to serve watercress sandwiches (that's something my mother didn't care for - and I personally have never eaten - but it sounds very English).
That's it for today... may continue on with this at some point or may go on to my maternal side another day.
Hope I didn't bore you too much... I planned to add a picture of that postcard from the Persian Gulf sent to my dad when he was 7... but don't have the energy to look for it just yet (still putting Christmas away over here).
Hope you are all staying home safe and warm during this Arctic Storm. It's still pretty cold here (not as cold as some of course... but cold for us Southerners), but it should be warming up a bit in the next day or so.
Hugs (virtually),
Rian
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Hi Rian! I was so happy to see a new post here--and also happy to read the eye surgery went relatively well (I say relative because of the dizzying effect of the anesthesia). I can't remember if we talked about this before, but I saw a medical study recently that said older people can have a much longer time recovering from the anesthesia. Anyway, it's still good news! I enjoyed reading about your paternal grandfather as well, he sounded like a brave man, someone who liked adventure. As for watercress sandwiches, I got to sample them a few years ago at a birthday party. They were spicy, a little bitter--just greens on little white bread & butter squares. Anyway, good to hear from you :^)
ReplyDeleteDug, I've had several surgeries though the years, last one being an appendectomy about 10 years ago and I don't remember the anesthesia affecting me as this one did. Guess it is my age now...
DeleteMy eye is bothering me tonight... watering a lot and aching. May have the doctor check it out. As for my grandfather, he does sound like he liked adventure... and I will have to try to find watercress and give it a try.
I do hope that is the last eye surgery. You have been through a lot.
ReplyDeleteI find family history very interesting and have been working through family trees for both my maternal and maternal families. No real fascinating characters as your grandfather but I find it a challenge and interesting.
I'm certain your stories will be appreciated by future generations.
Mae, I do like to hear stories about the family members I never knew. Wish I had asked more questions when there were still those around that could answer them. It is interesting.
DeleteYour eye surgeries turned into quite an ordeal, but happy to know you are on the backside of them, and hope all is well.
ReplyDeleteYour family tree is fascinating, I've eaten cucumber and watercress sandwiches for "high tea" before, dainty and not a favorite for men :)
Hope you are staying warm in this ice and snow.
Jo
I'm trying to pass the info that I do know on to my grandson that lives with us. He seems interested and God knows I never asked questions when I was in my 20's... too busy getting on with life (and kids). And Jo, I will look for watercress (not something you see much around here) and check it out.
DeletePrayers, prayers, prayers for you Rian, that your eye troubles are truly over and that you will heal from this last surgery quickly. You have certainly had a time with it.
ReplyDeleteI love the start to your family biography! What interesting stories and what a handsome dad. It's always fun to find a little scandal whether it is true or not. It is said that it is hard to find traces of the women. I know I finally found a ggrandmother's obituary in a 1800's newspaper. It said "Mrs John Doe" died, etc. No where in the article was her own name. Oh to spend a day with them!
Thanks, Miss Merry. You are certainly on my prayer list too. And I agree that I'd love to be able to spend one day with the grandparents I never knew.
DeleteOh my, I really feel for you and what you’ve recently gone through with your eye! I’m afraid of surgery and any other medical procedures, too. When I had my lumpectomy with my breast cancer, I was so horribly nauseous from the anesthesia meds. I didn’t feel right until the next day. I sincerely hope you can now heal and be done with this! - Jenn
ReplyDeleteJenn, I've never had any problem with anesthesia before. In fact, 25 years ago when I had my lumpectomy, I can remember the doctor asking me how I felt as I was waking up... and I remember saying, "OMG, I've never been this relaxed in my life". But then, I wasn't 80 years old then.
DeleteThanks for sharing about the "last" eye surgery, and your family stories too! It's all quite interesting, and maybe your descendants will tell of both to their kids. You are a brave one, and can tell the stories well.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Barbara. I like stories and am constantly writing them (not for publication, just because I enjoy how they seem to tell themselves). Of course I'm not writing much these days with my eye situation. It waters constantly and thus makes everything blurry... even reading is a pain. Hope it clears up eventually.
DeletePrayers from me too, that this is the end of your eye (or any other) surgery. Gahhh, what an ordeal!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kim. And I have been reading your posts... just not commenting a lot these days. And Gaa-ah! That's a lot of snow!!
DeleteOh wow! I'm glad your eye surgery was successful despite all you went through. Tie your hands down? Oh my gosh. I'm glad they didn't have to do that this time.
ReplyDeleteI'm so impressed with all you've compiled about your family history.
Kay, I'm surprised you're impressed with what little I know of our family history. I'm a bit embarrassed that I've never gotten further into the genealogy. I keep planning to do it, but life seems to get in the way.
Deletei am wishing you the very best on surgery. take it easy and try not to do too much!!
ReplyDeleteDebbie, I think my eye's doing fine. Some days it bothers me more than others. But I'm hoping it's all part of the healing process??
Deletei guess i forgot to say that i am somewhat interested in ancestry. i bought a book to complete "my family history". i filled in the family trees, wrote a bunch of others notes based on the prompts and now it is with my other journals. that was it for me!!
DeleteMy goodness, you have really been through the mill with your eyes. Hope that this will get everything fixed and you don't have to endure any more messing around. I know that anything being done to a person's eyes is really scary, no matter how brave they are.
ReplyDeleteYour grandfather sounds like he was a real dare-devil. Gold prospecting, sailing a gunboat on the Persian Gulf, building a ship for. heaven's sake and then stealing it back when not paid for his labor, then taking off for the US. What a guy! Wouldn't it be fascinating to have a real talk with him! Imagine the tales he could tell.
Take care and heal quick!
My goodness you have really been through the mill with your eye. Hope this last surgery is the end. Anything to do with a person's eyes is really a scary thing. Hope your recovery is quick and that this takes care of your eyes for evermore.
ReplyDeleteYour grandfather was really a dare-devil, wasn't he. Wouldn't it be fascinating to just sit down and talk with him? Imagine the tales that he could tell. Fighting in the Boer War, manning a gunboat in the Persian Gulf, prospecting for gold good grief, it's a wonder that he came through alive with all those adventures. You could write an interesting story about him with a little more information. You wouldn't have to embellish it at all.