Last Thursday afternoon (March 13, 2025), my oldest son received a phone call from the Police Department in California telling him that his 17 year old son died in January.
At first he thought it was some kind of sick joke. But as the conversation continued, began to realize that it wasn't. His son's death was confirmed by the coroner's office, but no details were given.
After calling us with this news, we spent the rest of the day and night trying to understand how and why we were not told before now.
We are devastated... and confused.
Sorry to be the bearer of sad news. World news is sad enough right now, but this is heart rending.
Just thought those of you who follow me here might want to know.
Hugs (virtual),
Rian
I am so sorry. That is devastating and scary. I will hold your family in my prayers. I am so sorry.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Miss Merry. I was going to turn comments off... but don't know how to do that. But I appreciate your prayers.
DeleteRian, I was glad to know before you decided to share it here, but I am still very sorry and heartbroken for your loss. You're one of the dearest people I know and I wish there was something I could do or say here. You and DH are in my heart, always. :-( If you learn any more, I hope you'll consider sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Dug, I will try to share what we learn... but haven't learned much more yet.
DeleteOh my gosh, I'm so sorry! I, too, will keep you and your family in my prayers. 🙏❤️
ReplyDeleteThanks, Kim. I appreciate it...and we could use your prayers.
DeleteThat's most disconcerting, and I hope you all find out more about this. So very sorry for the sudden news of a loved one's loss. Sending many hugs as prayers through the internet!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Barbara. I think thoughts and prayers are powerful... and needed.
DeleteOh Rian, I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you get some answers to how and why your son wasn't informed much sooner. Thinking of your entire family at this sad time.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Mae. Thinking (and hoping) it was simply negligent, and not malicious. He lived with my son's ex. His older brother lives with us.
DeleteHow incredibly sad. Sending hugs and condolences as you work through your grief. I hope you all get the answers you need.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Bobi. We're still working on getting those answers.
DeleteOoh my goodness, I am so very sorry Rian, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time.
ReplyDeleteHugs,
Jo
Thank you, Jo. I appreciate that.
DeleteSo very sorry. What a loss for such a young person. Linda in Kansas
ReplyDeleteThank you, Linda. My sister lost her son at 17 to Leukemia... and my son (who was the same age as his cousin) took it hard back then. Now to lose his own son at the same age is just unbelievable.
DeleteIt's so awful to lose a loved one, but it seems really strange that it kept so long before you found out about it. I do hope you share what you discover about it all. And yes, it's important to tell those loved ones in our family and wider circle, often, that we love them. My heart goes out to you.
ReplyDeleteDJan, accidents happen... and it's awful, but why the delay in letting his father (and us) know?
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